One of my favourite books Alice in Wonderland, the story begins with Alice being led to the rabbit hole by her curiosity of an anxious rabbit or is it a rabbit of anxiety? sure to be late for something. A hole that went on for what seemed like miles and the bottom was the portal leading her to a new world. Blogging I suppose is to take you through parts of my life where I can remember falling, falling down holes. Portals into different worlds
“Little Alice fell
bumped her head
and bruised her soul”
The sky is so non discript neither grey or blue like dishwater drizzeling from above
A red dirty Audi estate drives in front of me it’s brake lights the only brightness on this dull day.
Will today be the day you leave us?
I wasn’t even in the same part of the country when my own father died. I’d moved to Wales three years before we we’re estranged he was a bully and a alcoholic.
I don’t even know how or where he died. If anyone was with him
I drove back to my home town and was told in a very matter of fact way “Your old man died last night”
Yes last night he died …
Nothing I felt nothing.
Relief maybe .
That I didn’t feel anything.
You Malcolm are the exact opposite of my Dad.
I’ve sat today listening to my hubby, your son chat to you about childhood memories you are completely non responsive but he carries on.
Stories of you and lou taking the sow to the boar. Rope tied around the back leg of a large pig , stearing it with a stick. Who knew that’s a done thing.
Down the road into the village past the pub and down the lane.
It’s starts out quite no problem until most of the dogs on in the village realise what’s happening and before you know it your like the pied piper. Pig, stick and thirty dogs following you. What a commotion!
Another story about going to fetch a Billy goat in the back of a small van.
Goat unimpressed about being transported and sticks it’s horns through the van roof so many memories.
I’m here dad he says.
He looks at me and says I came home from work because I had that feeling.
Someone was standing behind me.
He was waiting for me to come home. So I came.
Keep talking I tell him he knows your here.
My heart swells with love for him my grafter of a man.
Everything about him so like you Malcolm you taught him well.
I wish we had know each other longer I’m sure you had hundreds of more stories to tell me.
See you later Dad Lou will be here later to go fetch the m. Jeff’s says kissing you gently.
We leave to drive home in separate cars.
Dreary drizzles clouds the view from the back door over the bay.
“I watched the pier burn from this step, over at Weston super mare I here you say. On a clear day you can see ilfracombe
Your voice as clear as day Malcolm.
I know I whisper only last summer you were up there on the flat roof fixing the gutter with Jeff.
How will he live with out you I wonder ?
I’ll take care of your lad I promise.
Now go fetch the pig home xx
I’m sitting here mid afternoon listening to you breath steady hum of the hospital bed mattress keeping you comfortable here in the living room where you have brought up your family.
Sringe driver increased dose today keeps you comfortable. You have declined this last week. Cancer…..
Your a hard man, a grafter but the pain has taken the glint from your eye.
I tell you what’s going on around us I’m taking your dog patch out, that Jeffery your son my husband will be here after work.
Always “Jeffrey” full title never Jeff.
The picture of you and Nancy hangs over the bed in younger years with your mop of dark curly hair you look greek both smiling and happy.
Memories of the past family parties birthdays, anniversaries when you and your twin brother would arrive dressed the same we would laugh knowing you hadn’t planned it. I can only imagine the trouble you two caused when you were young lads handsome and cheeky.
Before your women tamed you.
You and your Nancy.
Douglas and his Ethel
You had always been close.
Bringing your children up together. Holidaying together.
Ethel was the life and soul of the party few drinks and she would hold up her skirt dancing around with her infectious laugh. It’s a good few years since she left us cancer took her too.
I wondered how Doug would cope without her.
Now I can’t imagine how this family will carry on without you Malcolm.
Sixty plus years Nancy has loved you and your children and grandchildren idolise you.
Douglas your twin your other half. He’s never known life without you by his side.
My Jeff was run over suffered massive brain damage as a child you told me you couldn’t go to work as a lorry driver without him screaming the house down. So you would take him with you up and down the country. From here in Wales up to Scotland. I’ve never been I told you.
Go you encouraged there is no where like it.
You gave jeff car engines told him to take them.apart then rebuild them you always believed in him
He is amazing just like you are your boys run their own garage they rebuild camper vans do mots any engine Jeff can fix it.
When you and I sat talking few weeks ago you told me you’d also taught Jeff to build ‘ go and look at the fireplace in front room you winked twinkle in your eye.
You had built it.
The garage overlooking the bay. Did you build that too I asked.
“no that was Jeffery you laughed he built me a garage then put two horses in it and used it as a bloody stable!”
You are so alike. Peas in a pod . Father and son, friends.
We laughed cars and horses that’s my Jeff
That’s our link our connection Malcolm we both adore the same man. How can I thank you enough?
I sit here while your Nancy sleeps for a little while she had seldom left your side
I whisper thanks and promise I will look after your lad.
That we will take care of Nancy
I bet Ethel will be there waiting and your best friend Jock. What a party that will be Malcolm.
As Dad’s go I don’t know a better one I wish I had known you longer
When you go I whisper come back sometimes and see us I think I feel you squeeze my hand.
I whisper again to my goddess to take you gently carry you on this last part of your journey. Keep you safe
My heart hurts but I remind myself I’m blessed to have had you in my life.
Almost nine years since I saw my eldest son being estranged from a grown up son or daughter is indescribable.
Knowing waiting is the only thing you have is heart breaking.
A friend once said to me ,”birthdays and Christmas must be hard”
Yes they were but it is much more than that
I have three children and five of my husband’s eight in total Lots of grandchildren.
They are all so very different when they all turn up it’s like the Walton’s!
If your under 30 you may have to Google them 🙈
Anyway my point is they are all individuals I love them all dearly
Matthew was always the one who would ring his Mam. Every other day, everyday sometimes when he was on tour in the army in Iraq he would Skype or send e blueys little blue letters. He always kept in touch so we would chat about everything.
I’d tell him everything. We were so alike sense of humor,liked same food well you get the picture.
So when suddenly he stopped calling then refused to see me I was distraught.
No reason absolutely no idea why
That’s hard to imagine I know what your thinking if you knew him so we’ll you must have an idea.
Well I didn’t and that’s what was so bad my kids can come to me with anything.
He wouldn’t talk to his sister or brother about it I thought my heart would break.
So every time something happened a baby born, a holiday, my dog saffie was I’ll. Talking about my other childrens childhood of course there was memories of Matthew too he was always in my heart.
I would have rang Matthew we would have talked.
I’ve been in hospital a few times he would have been there
Good things, sad things, new things every single thing I’ve thought of him I’ve missed him there has been a hole in my life no one can fill.
My other children were upset about how much I was hurt. Keep in contact with him I’d beg he’s your brother I wanted them to still have each other it was beyond hard.
Our children are irreplaceable. I have a few close friends who know me well and know when I struggle know that every few months I ring his mobile just to hear his voice.
Friends who knew me as a single mum when the kids were small who remember how it was, friends with shared memories.
So Friday gone I visited my home town for first time in two years stayed with good friends
Viv and I sit up late chatting inevitability the conversation turns to Matthew I get the crampy feeling in my gut fear and I hope that this year will be the one that I see him again. You will she says positively.
I drive home and I speak it out loud as I drive.
“Please mother hear me bring my lad home to me,
Happiness health and abundance I ask from thee
All my children together is all that I ask
The past to be left and a new beginning to cast
My face is wet and I stop my car on the Moors
I love my life where I live my hubby our retreat but the ache that my lad left in my heart won’t ever be fixed without him .
Today I sit down with my phone to read e mails.
A message pops up from Matthews wife who I’ve never met.
She asks for my phone number.
I feel sick is something wrong.
I send it.
He has spoken to her Saturday night the night I sat chatting to Viv.
I don’t ask for details but he wants to sort things, to see me I’m trying hard to be okay but I’m sobbing.
Can I go over and when.
Of course I’ll go as soon as he wants me there I’m on a plane I cannot tell you how I feel it’s beyond happy. This is the first day of a new beginning. I rang Viv to tell her she too is blow away.
I had never given up hope but I can say honestly I was afraid.
So there it is.
Everything I asked for
I really am overwhelmed.
Never give up. Never.
I know I say it often
Life is often hard….
But always beautiful. ♥️
Today another beautiful day spent with Stephanie Jones at the malindi centre in West Wales.
I met Stephanie when I did my Omni energy healing a system of healing from India founded by Dr Sameer Kale I have thought how best to describe it’s differences to Reiki which I have worked with and taught since 1992.
I’d have to say they are both a form of energy healing Reiki from Japan
Omni from India.
The similarities end there.
If you have been a recipient of Reiki please think about experiencing Omni and see for yourself completely different.
A very solid grounding healing all encompassing I’m really enjoying using on myself and as a distance healing.
Looking forward to using it on others.
So whilst doing my Omni I read and asked about Omni Kryia (energy healing massage therapy)
It seemed to draw me although I was a little curious how massage would work clothed?
As kria can be used either way.
So I booked and went back today to learn more!
In a nutshell I’m hooked.
This is amazing having experienced a massage myself by Stephanie my Omni Teacher/Master I have nothing to compare this to. It left me feeling totally relaxed, energized and refreshed.
Then my turn to give a kria massage I was pleasantly surprised how easy it was to do this whilst the client is wearing clothing covered with a light cotton blanket.
The heat and energy from the healing was palpable.
I know this is going to be a valuable tool in my holistic tool box. Particularly with pallative patients kria is something that is easy to do even in a hospital bed.
If you are a holistic therapist and you feel drawn to energy healing I’d encourage you to check out the link below
I’m thankful I was drawn to this loving path of Omni. I’m sure my journey with Stephanie Sameer and malindi centre is just beginning.
My new website will be launching this month please check us out any profits go to providing breaks for cancer patients at Ravens Retreat. Wales.
The healing room run by my dear friend Julie Rosser in the vale of Glamorgan also provides Reiki classes and a range of therapies there is also a beautiful yurt available to hire for workshops.
Training for Omni can be found here
As a female, I was often disappointed as a child that most stories had a male lead. My favourite fairy tale was beauty and the beast, which shaped my future and unfortunately, proved to be just that – a fairy tale, the beast didn’t turn into a prince and I was inconsolable (Just Kidding). However, the moral of the story for me was – you have to love YOUR own beast, the part of our personality we all try to hide, we all have a shadow side, and self control is the key to overcoming the dual natured challenge of being human.
Jung sought his inspirations from ancient mythology, that encompasses the whole of the life span from maiden to wise woman, with each level offering a different challenge. Persephone, Hecate and the Crone are three aspects of who and what we are, as a woman and the journey our lives take, from immaturity to maturity, because all three of these goddesses, also have a darker, shadow side to their persona too. Making them the perfect role models, for young girls to leant from.
Hecate is a goddess in ancient Greek mythology, often shown holding a pair of torches or a key and in later periods depicted in triple form. She was variously associated with crossroads, borders, city walls, doorways, and, by extension, entrance-ways, light, magic, witchcraft, knowledge of herbs and poisonous plants, ghosts, necromancy, and sorcery. With those invisible realms outside or beyond the world of the living.
The Greek goddess Hecate was the only one of the Titans who Zeus allowed to retain authority once the Olympians had defeated them. Her main role appears to have been associated with being ‘between’ worlds and characterized as a ‘liminal’ goddess. Hecate mediated between regimes—Olympian and Titan—but also between the mortal and divine spheres.
She was worshiped in Athenian households as a protective goddess and one who bestowed prosperity and daily blessings on the family and was regarded with (some) rulership over earth, sea, and sky, as well as a more universal role as Saviour.
Mother of Angels and the Cosmic World Soul.
Hecate was represented as three-formed, or with three heads or as in Egyptian texts, three animals; one dog, one serpent, and one horse. Which is speculated as being connected with the appearance of the full moon, half moon, and new moon.
As a virgin goddess, she remained unmarried and had no regular consort, though some traditions named her as the Mother of Scylla.
The story of Persephone, the sweet daughter of goddess Demeter who was kidnapped by Hades and later became the Queen of the Underworld, is known all over the world. It is actually how the ancient Greeks explain the change of the seasons, the eternal cycle of the Nature’s death and rebirth. Persephone is understood in people’s mind as a naïve little girl who flows between the protection of the mother and the love of her husband- Hades.
Persephone, was the daughter of Zeus and Demeter, the goddess of harvest and fertility. Attracting the attention of many gods. However, Demeter had an obsessed love for her only daughter and kept all men away from her. The most persisting suitor of Persephone was Hades, the god of the Underworld. When he asked Demeter to marry her daughter, Demeter got furious and said there wasn’t the slightest chance for that to happen. Hades was heart-broken and decided to get Persephone no matter what.
One day, while the young girl was playing and picking flowers along with her friends in a valley, she beheld the most enchanting narcissus she had ever seen. As she stooped down to pick the flower, the earth beneath her feet suddenly cleaved open and through the gap Hades himself came out on his chariot with black horses. Hades grabbed the lovely maiden before she could scream for help and descended into his underworld kingdom while the gap in the earth closed after them.
Hecate, known for her farsightedness, where she had witnessed the abduction of Persephone and told Persephone’s’ mother what had happened. Later she became a close friend and confidant to the frightened Persephone and helped her adjust to life in the Underworld. Hades – to express his gratitude for her assistance to his young bride, invited Hecate to become a permanent resident in his kingdom and allowed her to come and go as she wished.
Demeter, in grief for the loss of her daughter, decided to take a long and indefinite leave from her duties as the goddess of harvest and fertility, with devastating consequences. The earth began to dry up, harvests failed, plants lost their fruitfulness, animals were dying for lack of food and famine spread to the whole earth, resulting in untold misery.
The cries of the people who were suffering reached Olympus and the divine ears of Zeus. The mighty god finally realized that if he wouldn’t do something about his wife’s wrath, all humanity would disappear. Persephone was allowed to live in the underworld for six months, and during this time, her devoted mother was too heart broken and grieved, she stopped working on fertility and harvests (Autumn and Winter) and during the six months when she had her daughter again, the land was fertile for crops to grow (Spring and Summer)
Dogs were closely associated with Hecate in the Classical world, it has been claimed that her association with dogs is suggestive of her connection with childbirth, for the dog was sacred to Eileithyia, and other birth goddesses.
Closely associated with plant lore and the concoction of medicines and poisons. In particular she was thought to give instruction in these closely related arts. A number of other plants (often poisonous, medicinal and/or psychoactive) are also associated with Hecate.
In later times, when this divinity becomes identified with Persephone, she is supposed to inhabit the lower world as a malignant deity, and henceforward it is the gloomy, awe-inspiring side of her character which alone develops itself.
She now presides over all practices connected with witchcraft and enchantments, haunts sepulchres, and the point where two roads cross, and lonely spots where murders have been committed.
Since Hecate had great influence in the spirit world, appeals were often made to her for assistance in keeping one safe because she was known as a protector of young children, shepherds, and sailors. And she could be counted on to help those who were dying, easing their transition into the Otherworld, and helping them prepare for a return, in their next life.
Hecate is nevertheless recognized for a special type of knowledge and is considered to be the goddess of trivia.
The Crone Goddess or dark mother is the last aspect of the Triple Goddess, together with the Mother and the Maiden she represents part of the circle of life. In today’s society where we worship youth and beauty, and this aspect of the Goddess is the most frightening and misunderstood of the three, as she represents our destruction, decay and death. However, death is part of the cycle.
In some stories, she is disagreeable, malicious, or sinister in manner, often with magical or supernatural associations that can make her either helpful or obstructing. However in her positive aspect she is depicted as a Grandmother, a wise woman, or a midwife. The word Crone is derived from the old word for crown, suggesting wisdom that emanates from the head like a halo.
She embodies the three life levels of the young maiden or wife, the child and then, the wise women.