I’m writing this post about my beautiful grand daughter.
To raise awareness of hate crime
Bullying that follows kids home it’s there right in front of you in your home.
Behind a screen a phone a laptop a tablet.
Be aware it happened to us it can happen to you.
We always here about bullying and I suppose everyone has experienced it in one way or another growing up.
Just lately I’ve been unfortunate to discover a completely new level.
I can hear my old mams words echoing “there’s nothing as cruel as kids”
I want to tell her she was dead right.
I have three grown up children .
My eldest granddaughter is mixed race I may be bias but I’m so proud of the way my daughter has raised her.
She’s a good kid, kind and compassionate.
She’s my eyes, I adore her.
She’s at high school 14 tall beautiful, funny and bright .
But over this last year I’ve noticed a change.
It’s been a strange year lock down , living through a pandemic.
My daughter and granddaughter both advised to shield as my daughter has auto immune conditions and my granddaughter Tamika has asthma.
But my gut told me it was more than lockdown our girl had changed.
She and I have always been close .
I asked was everything okay she said it was but I wasn’t convinced.
She was withdrawn.
Eventually we discover she is being bullied by a girl from the other side of town.
Hate crimes a more appropriate expression than bullying .
Because the way she was being hounded was just unforgivable.
The police visited the house spoke to Tamika explained what they could do.
But she didn’t want it to be taken any further.
She later tells us she’s afraid of the repercussions.
It will bring to my daughters door.
The 15 year old girls boyfriend is known for assault
Tamika won’t tell me the girls name all i know is it is Molly.
Please Nan she says leave it.
I’m so upset
We are supposed to protect our kids .
I then discover the girl is posting on tik toc videos of people she hates one of Tamika with photos of her .
Vile insults like
“Your a failed abortion’
Threats to hit her.
Pictures of her commenting on her size.
3 years ago my beautiful girl attended and performed performance poetry with me and poets on the hill.
She had the confidence to perform to crowds now she holds the neck of her sweat shirt up to cover her face.
She wrote and performed poem called bullying .
How did we get to this?
Today she sent me the screen shots of the messages made .
Put out there on tik toc and messages about Tamika sent to tamikas friend.
Bullying is a hate crime!
But now in this new age of internet it follows you home.
It threatens you on tik toc
On what’s app groups
You can’t escape it.
My daughter managed to speak to Molly’s father .
He was shocked .
Said he would make it stop
But didn’t want to look at the proof the screen shots of the constant abuse that one child and poured onto another.
Making her life unbearable.
I pray he keeps his word.
That this is an end to it.
I disagree with him not facing the evidence of Molly’s actions.
I really don’t think without doing so he can fully understand.
So I’m posting it here .
It has to stop.
Keep an eye on your children in these strange times talk to them .
Love them protect them.
Keep an eye on their phones , social media.
Know what is there on the screen.